Marriage
in Different Cultures
Marriage is an
age-old tradition that represents the union of two individuals to form a family
unit. Cultural differences are a major consideration of how marriages are
performed, and define he essence of how a culture views intimate relationships.
In some countries, marriages are prearranged to strengthen bonds between
families, combine land control, or advance political agendas. In other
countries marriage is a voluntary act that symbolizes the love shared by two
individuals, or the desire to start a family. Today in America and other
countries marriage has taken a modern turn in beliefs, practices, and purpose.
Arranged marriage is less favorable, while intergenerational marriages have
become normal practice.
Arranged
Marriage in Hindu Culture
According to Chawla
(2007) “Research on arranged marriage in the humanities and social sciences has
been limited to historical and comparative sociological analyses” (p. 1). In
India where Hinduism is the primary religion, arranged marriages are generally
arranged based on specific criteria. There is a considerable amount of data
regarding arranged marriage in India related to how marriage generates and
reflects ideals of social order (Harman, 1997). This data shows comparisons to
familial caste and subcaste boundaries, family dynamics, and the specific roles
of husband and wife (Harman, 1997). Also reflected is the religious aspect of
marriage where unmarried deities are and exception, and that single status
dictates the powers of the particular deity (Harman, 1997). Most common in
arranged marriage is the concern of similar social standings that include the
class of both families, religion, and educational levels of the couple to be
married (Chawla, 2007). To ensure proper genealogical diversity, families
employed the services of sambhalas (match makers) to track the genealogical
history of each family. Arranged marriages would not be permitted if the bride
and groom shared familial relation of five to seven generations (Sur, 1973 as
cited in Chawla, 2007). Even with current modernization, arranged marriages are
still common practice, but research has displayed a growing disapproval of this
practice.
Marriage
in Nineteenth-Century Britain
Intergenerational
marriages in nineteenth-century British culture was considered at he time to
represent a creepy threat of incest invoked by a young woman marrying a man old
enough to be her father (Carens, 2010). Esther Godfrey’s book titled The
january-May Marriage in the Nineteenth-Century British Culture draws attention
to the various methods in which relationships between young women and older men
were viewed in Victorian times (Carens, 2010). Godfrey uses literature and artwork
to disclose the concept of how some young women took advantage of aging males
to obtain wealth, status, or the attraction of younger men (Godfrey, 2009 as
cited in Carens, 2010). Another aspect of marriage in Victorian Britain is
covered by Marcus (2007) who theorized that people of the Victorian era
“savored various relationships between women as being central to femininity and
supporting married life” (p. 1). Diversity in relationships was a fundamental
aspect of Victorian England, and issues like lesbianism were acceptable in more
respectable societies (Parker, 2007).
Conclusion
In regard to marriage
and culture, there are many aspects that require evaluation. In many
westernized, or modernized cultures marriage between two people is a symbol of
the love and commitment that each person has toward the other. In some
cultures, love has less value in marriage because families arrange marriages
based on specific criteria of the culture. In Victorian times, marriage between
an older man and a much younger woman was in some cased reviled, but acts like
lesbianism were accepted in in higher respected society structure.
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